This week in GOTR, we’re talking about standing up to peer pressure. While we might wish our kids would never be exposed to the harmful effects of peer pressure, unfortunately that’s not very realistic.
So how do you help your daughter know when to say no and learn techniques that will help her stand up to peer pressure?
1) Role play – while this may seem dorky, some kids find it helpful to have scripts they can use when they are being pressured to do something they don’t want to do. We teach them some scripts in GOTR, but you can help enforce these at home.
2) Model positive behavior – a student of mine once stopped smoking because his granddaughter made a deal with him: she wouldn’t take up smoking if he would stop. That hit home for him in a way no smoking cessation program ever had. He also learned a valuable lesson: “Do what I say, not what I do,” doesn’t work. You’ve got to demonstrate the behavior you want your daughter to follow.
3) Boost her self-esteem – Praise your daughter when she excels at something you and she value. Let her know that she is more than her looks, her possessions, what some bully said to her.
4) Ask for her opinion – Get her to talk about what she values and ask for her input when you make decisions for the family. This will not only help boost her self-esteem, but help her learn to vocalize what she wants.
5) Be supportive – We all have bad days. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is to simply be there for her. We all need a shoulder to cry on and a friend to listen to us sometimes.
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